My children's biological mother is dead. I only know because one day, I decided to be nosy and check jail records to see if she'd been up to anything. She hadn't. Because it turns out that after years of being worried that I would run into her with the kids, she was gone. She had … Continue reading When The Birth Mother Dies
I always loved watching those shows where people reconnect with their birth families. It's so amazing to see it when families are back together. But, then I adopted kids. I don't know if I could be like those moms on tv. I don't know if I could give my blessing. Well, I don't know if … Continue reading Do I Love My Kids Enough To Let Them Go?
Two of our current favorite shows are Supergirl and The Flash. Both have inadvertent adoption/foster care themes. Barry Allen's (a.k.a. The Flash) father is in prison as the show starts and he has been raised by his foster father, Joe. Since he has raised from age 11, he thinks of him as a son and … Continue reading Adoption In Television
When I stop and think about it, I am aware at how differently my life turned out from what I expected.. I always visualized marrying a man with brown hair who would make me laugh and feel safe. I would get pregnant immediately. We'd have 2 or 4 babies (I like equal numbers.)and a houseful of animals. We … Continue reading Our Kids’ Oldest Brother And Us.
Adoptive parents are sensitive folks. Really, every group is. There are some things that will get us all revved up. My "triggers" are asking about "real mom," asking if I have my own children, or really anything that suggests that I or my children are "less than," in any way. I've tried to lighten up over the … Continue reading Should My Children Be Grateful For Being Adopted?